Pretend you have a problem, maybe with a family member or co-worker. A friend notices that you’re angry and asks what’s wrong. You open up to describe what’s happening when you suddenly hear: “I know what you mean! That same thing happened to me! I completely understand how you feel. I figured out how to […]
Assumptions hinder helping
It’s easy to jump to conclusions, isn’t it? If you’ve been working in a profession for a long time and have day-to-day experience that informs your approach to work and makes it easy to assume, be aware: you may be getting cognitively lazy. Being cognitively lazy means you tend to assume you know the circumstances, […]
Using duct tape to help others
Imagine I tell you how exhausting it’s been training a new puppy while trying to work without getting distracted. (It has.) Or how frustrating it is to have technical issues while working on my Mac. (It is!) Or how I wish my husband didn’t have to travel so much for work. (I do.) How quickly, […]
Small Impulse vs. Big Reward: Don’t Give Up What You Want … for What You Want Right Now
Don’t ask a woman eating ice cream from a box how she’s doing. When I saw this statement on Facebook, I laughed, of course … and then considered the truth in that humor as it relates to emotional intelligence and its impact on wellness. One of the essential factors of emotional intelligence is impulse control, […]
Three Aha! moments that changed my client’s life
Sheila (not her real name) is an incredibly intelligent, successful doctor. She has years of experience in a role that greatly impacts and influences a varied, large number of people. It wouldn’t surprise me if many of those people look at Sheila and admire her quiet confidence, strength of character and ability to get results. […]
10 Ways to Make Choices That Can Change Your Life
One of my favorite quotes comes from E.B. White, best known perhaps for authoring Charlotte’s Web and Stuart Little: “I arise in the morning torn between the desire to improve the world and the desire to enjoy the world. It makes it hard to plan the day.” Indeed, each of our days start with a […]
What Weight Does Your Body Want to Be?
Do you find yourself fighting and fighting to reach a certain weight, only to bounce right back to your current weight? Have you dropped 10 or 20 pounds, only to have them slowly creep back on? What’s the deal? Why does your body desire a certain weight? Research shows that your body has a weight […]
Using Self-Regulation to Stay Focused
They say that “patience is a virtue” and “time is money”. I’d like to suggest that “focus is a virtue and money” combined. Our inability to focus, concentrate and reflect deeply is significantly and negatively impacting productivity. In fact, getting distracted costs businesses billions – $588 billion per year by some estimates! Does that number […]